By Grace Cherian In a busy world where everyone is too rushed for everything, here are some small ways that you can become a more awesome human: 1. Re...
By Grace Cherian
In a busy world where everyone is too rushed for everything, here are some small ways that you can become a more awesome human:
1. Rediscover snail mail.
And not just for life’s big events. Like the unexpected congratulations card I got in the mail. Consider smaller occasions you can stick a stamp on and send love forward. Maybe someone lost his dog and you want to express your condolences. Perhaps a friend is going through a divorce and you want to tell her you’re thinking of her. Maybe a co-worker did something brave and you want to show appreciation or thanks.
In 2018, a written word goes a long way.
2. Smile and dial.
When was the last time you called someone to wish them a happy birthday, to get well, or to say “Thank you”? Texts are great, yes—because all communication is meaningful. But when someone picks up the phone, you hear that person’s voice and you can share a laugh (or even a cry) together, and well… it beats a laugh-out-loud and teary-face emoji (astandardized icon, as of a face or a heart, used especially in electronic messages or on web pages any day of the week).
3. Ask someone their goals and give a little something.
Asking someone about his goals for the year is a very generous act. This kind of question goes beyond surface conversation and leads you to really get to know a person. Ask without an agenda—out of curiosity. And to be a real superhuman, give that person something that might help him. If someone doesn’t know his goals, ask about his passion. The answer might surprise you. What’s your passion?
4. Share your blessings.
I’ve never liked the expression “give back.” What does that mean, exactly? Who should you be giving back to? What have you (or they) taken?
I prefer to just give. Or even better, share. I made a commitment earlier this year to give a little money every month to charity: for clean water after learning that diseases from dirty water kill more people every year than all forms of violence, including war. If you would like to share too, you can donate as much as you like or as little as $10/month here.
Many other small acts of kindness go a long way too, like smiling at someone in the hallway, offering a sincere compliment to your spouse, or praising someone in public (like in a meeting at the office or an open comment on Facebook).
I remind myself often of something that Anne Frank wrote: “How wonderful it is that nobody needs to wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” The power’s all ours. In the present.
Susie Moore is Greatist’s life coach columnist and a confidence coach in New York City. Sign up for free weekly wellness tips on her website and check back every Tuesday for her latest No Regrets column!